Are you a newlywed?
Did you just get engaged?
Are you and your partner looking to take your relationship to the next level?
When you’re considering marriage, deciding on your honeymoon or figuring out where you want to live are the first things you start to plan. Pre-marital counseling might be last on your list if it’s there at all. While it’s not an engagement topic that’s very fun or romantic, pre-marital counseling can set your marriage up to succeed and survive long-term, despite the odds.
Pre-marital counseling can help you and your significant other improve your relationship. Counseling can help you develop better communication skills, learn conflict management, uncover your shared core values, and identify differences that could create future conflict. Working with a therapist, you can discuss expectations with your partner that will help better prepare both of you for marriage.
So if these sound like you:
- You and your partner have arguments that don’t get resolved
- You feel like you’re always the one who has to compromise to keep the peace
- You’re concerned about how your partner’s financial situation will affect you as a married couple
- You’re worried about losing affection or having a diminished sex life after marriage
- You want to find healthier ways to resolve conflict
- You want to resolve religious or financial differences
- You want to define your marital roles and expectations
… Then, pre-marital counseling can significantly benefit both you and your partner.
The intimate nature of marriage requires that you talk to your partner about everything, no matter how awkward or uncomfortable. Pre-marital counseling will help you learn how to be a better listener and make your voice and needs to be heard productively and positively.
Pre-marital counseling will also show you how to handle conflict in your marriage. When you live with someone, you will have arguments ranging from mundane to more severe issues. How you argue will be a part of the story of how you are as a couple. Learn how to de-escalate arguments and fight fairly, so you don’t cause emotional pain from things you said that you’ll never be able to take back.
In pre-marital counseling, we will likely bring up topics that you’ve discussed with your partner previously and subjects you hadn’t considered before. This fresh perspective from an objective third party will uncover new details from your partner. This is also an excellent time for us to find unexpected areas where you disagree and give you the tools to handle possible future conflicts.
Getting married is one of life’s most treasured experiences. Pre-marital counseling can help you and your partner turn that momentous occasion into a loving, lasting relationship.
For guidance and support to strengthen your future marriage, please contact us today so we can schedule an appointment.